pgsql: Fix handling of self-modified tuples in MERGE.

Fix handling of self-modified tuples in MERGE.

When an UPDATE or DELETE action in MERGE returns TM_SelfModified,
there are 2 possible causes:

1). The target tuple was already updated or deleted by the current
    command. This can happen if the target row joins to more than one
    source row, and the SQL standard explicitly says that this must be
    an error.

2). The target tuple was already updated or deleted by a later command
    in the current transaction. This can happen if the tuple is
    modified by a BEFORE trigger or a volatile function used in the
    query, and should be an error for the same reason that it is in a
    plain UPDATE or DELETE command.

In MERGE's primary error handling block, it failed to check for (2),
causing it to return a misleading error message in such cases.

In the secondary error handling block, following a concurrent update
from another session, it failed to check for (1), causing it to
silently ignore target rows joined to more than one source row,
instead of reporting an error.

Fix this, and add tests for both of these cases.

Per report from Wenjiang Zhang. Back-patch to v15, where MERGE was
introduced.

Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/tencent_41DE0FF443FE14B94A5898D373792109E408%40qq.com

Branch
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REL_15_STABLE

Details
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https://git.postgresql.org/pg/commitdiff/b5c645d2a2652070ac128a42cf0d7b34403a6cfe

Modified Files
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src/backend/executor/nodeModifyTable.c       | 46 +++++++++++++++++++++++-----
src/test/isolation/expected/merge-update.out | 43 ++++++++++++++++++++++++++
src/test/isolation/specs/merge-update.spec   | 13 ++++++++
src/test/regress/expected/triggers.out       |  8 +++++
src/test/regress/sql/triggers.sql            |  4 +++
5 files changed, 106 insertions(+), 8 deletions(-)